RANSVESTIA

Dear Virginia:

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I do believe things are going much better — brother and his wife are really finding each other after 20 years! Their marriage is so much closer and loving than ever before, and they are loving each other so much more honestly and completely too. I'm not trying to exaggerate at all brother is really very happy. This progress is all based on his willingness to work hard on making himself a more complete individual - capable of expressing the good masculine and feminine characteristics in his person. She believes that, if he is complete and feels no limitation on his own expression of the qualities he cherishes in women, he will grow to need (my femme self) less. Meanwhile, she is expressing that love and beautiful patience that are so basic to the very best of women, and is accepting the fact that he must work to grow from where he is that he can not work to improve from where he is not. THAT means that currently I am real to him, and he needs to allow me some life. She has managed to let him give me several solitary evenings now, without any negative reaction. They are arranging for me to meet her and, if all goes well, to close up my apartment -- but not to die, Ginny --- to go HOME! Can you imagine? Well, she really does love him — not some fictitious picture of him and he is learning to trust and truly love her. They are so happy. His little daughter keeps commenting on how much he has changed, and how much easier it is to live with him. Her certainly did keep himself under horrible pressure for a horribly long time; but she now accepts that he did the very best he could. Again, I love you for your help, and will keep in touch. Maybe I can even return to the cor- respondence work, and see some of my friends again?

My love, (Femme name)

Dear Virginia,

Your commentary about your age reminds me, all too poignantly, that I will be 52 next Sunday - and it does not seem that a year has passed since the 51st birthday! At any rate, I am learning through experience that what we only speculated about 20 years ago is true. The “urge” doesn't diminish!! In my case perhaps in vours, too it only seems to grow stronger. I am very thankful to God that

(his wife)

has begun to accept my femme self- and, Virginia is is a very real accept- ance. Only yesterday she put her arms around me and said, “I love you so very dearly and I love -- now, too." It took nearly 30 years for me to hear those words but the sound of them made every day of the waiting